Are you identifying with your pain?

Your pain is not who you are. It doesn’t (have to) define you.

If your identity is attached to the pain of the past it will always be your present and future. And you will not be able to heal and move past it if it has become who you are.

In a conversation the other day I told parts of my story and the person was surprised, “I would have had no idea”.

And this isn’t a game of hiding or bypassing or denying, it is moving through the pain and suffering rather than remaining it. It is becoming in spite of what should have held you back, dettaching from the stories that came with the pain, and letting the pain and trauma blown into you by another release from you. The past isn’t paying rent, it doesn’t get to stay.

Healing is turning the chaos and trauma into fuel for the future, survival skills into superpowers.

For a long time I wore my survival as my identity. I had never been taught how to heal and so it became who I was. Until I realized that mask kept me a constant victim too. We can tell our story, share our truth, and shed it as who we are all at the same time. We can liberate ourselves from the past, from our experiences being all we are, and we can heal.

The past is not who you are, it is what happened to you. I’d even go as far as to say it is what happened to a part of you. Every second you are a new you.

How long will you let your pain define you when you are so much more than it?

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