Boundary check!

Boundaries are healthy, clear, acts of love, supportive of protection, growth, & safety, curated to empower & allow authentic connection.

So often our boundaries are delivered more as a question or a rigid wall than a healthy space created for you to take responsibility of you and not take responsibility for others, happiness, acceptance, love, approval, etc.

That is what a healthy boundary should do; create space between you and the world by which you can properly tend to yourself without onboarding what doesn’t belong to you.

Not every boundary needs to be explicitly spoken.

Sometimes they are implied in the message we send from our choices, actions, decisions.

Boundaries can be acting on your own behalf without a single word. They are designed to allow you space to matter from other humans, social media, events, toxicity, work, perceived obligations and so on.

A boundary can be
Spoken with certainty.
Excusing yourself from situations or conversations that aren’t supportive, healthy, or kind.
Not waiting for someone else to tell/provide/offer what you need.
Only engaging in behavior that is aligned with your values.
Saying and meaning your yes.
Saying and meaning your no.
Taking time for yourself.
Resting when you need it.
Not tolerating racism, oppression, mistreatment, abuse, neglect of others and acting on behalf of your beliefs.
Unsubscribing, unfollowing, unfriending anything and anyone not serving you.
Protecting your privacy, sharing with discernment.
Freedom around sexuality & spirituality.
Communicating needs and desires and allowing others to uphold their boundaries even if it means a change to the dynamic and interdependence.
Prioritizing wellbeing; emotional, mental, physical, financial, time, intellectual, etc.
Being honest.
Maintaining autonomy and integrity.
Clearly marking consequences for abuse or penetration of boundaries.

Remember that anyone who has a problem with your boundaries also had the benefits of you having none. Not everyone will love your changes & that’s okay. You are responsible for yourself and your healing.

It’s time. Go gently. It’s okay to start small. Notice what feels rigid or porous & why.

Getcha some boundaries. ✨

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