Healthy boundaries start with you.

Let’s talk about boun-da-ries, let’s talk about you and me, let’s talk about all the good things and the bad things about boundaries… if you’re not singing along, I can’t with you! I kid, I kid.

What are boundaries you ask? Oh, I love Kelsey Grant’s (@radicalselflove) definition, “Boundaries are the high-quality information we give to others to help them love us better.” Boundaries teach others how to treat us. Boundaries are like the fence surrounding your home (you) that keep those out who don’t treat you how you want to be treated.
AND the yard in between the house and fence is your responsibility. What we model ourselves is what people learn about our boundaries as well, so if we are not maintaining the grass, no one will think not to trample all over it.

How can you expect someone to treat you well (not trampling the yard before they even get to the house) and honor your boundaries if you do not? I hear all the time, “I am trying to set boundaries, but she just crosses them.” or “He will just say I am dramatic.” or “I want to enforce boundaries, I just don’t know where to start!”

Start here → We must first treat ourselves with integrity/respect/compassion/honor (fill in the values you want to be upheld in your life), by upholding our own boundary, if we want others to do the same. If we do not, if we…