Soul mates make for a tortured love, they aren’t meant for that.

I learned years ago, from the book Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert that we have the definition of what a soul mate is, all wrong. More specifically Richard from Texas says,

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that’s holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then they leave. And thank God for it….[they] shake you up…tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light could get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you [have] to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master and beat it.”

Shortly after I read this, the following flowed out of me for him, my soulmate, everything making so much more sense, at least to me.

There is something about us, that will never fade or wane. I believe it has been there all along, it’s just that we haven’t ever figured out how to…