Stayin in my lane

Wwwooooooffff this lands!

A sweet reminder to stay in your lane. And to myself to stay in mine.

Whether in shared space, as a facilitator or friend, on any topic… own your experience, do not impose on another’s.

This doesn’t mean not co-regulating or co-creating. It means not enmeshing with or taking responsibility of someone else’s experience. It means letting them take space too. It says, “I recognize my experience AND I can honor yours separate but equally important as mine.”

As a space holder or guide, we see this pop up when we have a desired outcome for our client.
In parent/child, it can be people-pleasing or accommodating.
In interpersonal relationships, it shows up as us organizing around other as if it were our own. Taking responsibility for their emotion, experience, reaction.
In the workforce, it can be a diminishment of our values to meet the expectations of “boss”.
It shows up myriad ways in race that I am still learning and so will not teach on and honor and hold space for.
It is obvious in ways we attempt to overpower, outwit, numb, not acknowledge, project.
Just to name a few pervasive ways it happens.