Your shame is a lie.

Before you learned to listen to those who should have loved you better, you were free. Before you believed them, you were in your truth.
Shame, different from guilt, isn’t that you did something bad, it is the belief that you are bad. That is often delivered directly from parents, mentors, religious influences, family, and society, because hurt people, hurt people. But it is time to release, to receive your own truths and shed the programming that holds you back.
When you find yourself down, feeling like you can’t, shouldn’t have, and are being overly hard on yourself, pause and ask yourself, “Are these things I am letting loop through my head true? Do they belong to me or are they the voice of another that I am allowing to sabotage my life and joy?” This pause and subsequent questions often allow us a brief respite from the onslaught of stuck and suck. And, when we give ourselves just a bit of room to matter we can see things a bit clearer, potentially even releasing the shame that does not belong to us.

Don’t believe their lies.

And when it comes to shaming ourselves, we would not trade the lessons learned to change it, so it is a wasted feeling. Keep your beautiful, full, real, experiential lens, with all of its truth.

You matter, you are whole and beautiful and deserving just by being. Keep that shit up, coming alive looks good on you!

All my best,
T